When you find that the work defines you and you have not chosen it you must find a means to remedy this situation.
Even when you have no choice for your work, when the work is done you have 4-6 hours of the day that you define. This is the time for meals, friends, hobbies and chores.
What I am trying to do is to become more efficient with that window of time that is mine in order to maximize the pleasure in life.
1. Get at least one chore (dishes, laundry, house maintenance done or started for at least one hour each day)
2. Cut back on things that do not serve a purpose. (Television just for the sake of television, social media on the web just for the sake of social media) I need to cut it back to about 1 hour per night.
3. That gives me 2-4 hours of "me" time. I should spend 1 hour a night exercising (I don’t but this is the plan)
4. After exercise That leaves 1-3 hours for reading, writing, photography/scrapbooking and gardening.
No, I am not there yet on this plan, but if I can succeed at it, I believe my moods will be more positive in general and I will be living a fairly healthy life that I can claim I own instead of being owned by “life” as often happens when there is no plan.